Why didn’t he text me back?

Let’s hear some serious palm-slapping appreciation as we warmly welcome dating advice experts  Vixendaily.com to the blog. They’ve got an all important question to answer so take it away you clever little vixens…

So today, we are going to talk about one of the biggest, most common, most nerve wracking questions we get – “Why didn’t he text me back?”

And there’s a reason why this question gets asked so often… it’s because there’s pretty much nothing worse than the agonizing, anxiety-ridden feeling when you’re waiting for a guy to text you back and getting NO response.

Especially if you KNOW that he’s read it because it says it right there on the text so WHY hasn’t he texted you back yet? He must be a jerk.

Actually, as it turns out, there are a lot of reasons why guys don’t text back – and most of them don’t involve him being a jerk or him hating you.

In fact, most of the time, if he doesn’t text back, he’s probably got something big going on in his life that he can’t ignore. Either that or he doesn’t have his phone – or the battery died.

But if he wasn’t super busy, then chances are the text you sent him made him not want to text you back.

And that’s OK! It’s OK to make a mistake (we all make mistakes in love!) – so long as you don’t compound that mistake by texting him 10 times in a row asking where he is and why he’s not responding.

I know the temptation is there… you want to do anything to relieve that horrible anxiety and pressure building up inside you, worrying if he thinks you’re a loser or if he was annoyed that you even texted him at all.

Don’t worry – everything is going to be OK.

I’m going to tell you the most important do’s and don’ts about texting, so that you never have to worry you did something wrong or drive yourself crazy trying to figure out what to do again.

So without further ado, here are the top texting do’s and don’ts:

Texting Do’s:

• When you text him, ask him about something concrete – like if he wants to go to get lunch at a certain restaurant at a specific time. That way, he has a direct question he can respond to.
• You definitely want to keep things light. Texting isn’t for serious emotional conversations – too many misunderstandings.
• Keep your message short. Nobody wants to read a 2 page message on a phone.

Texting Don’ts:

• Avoid sending him boring texts, like “heyy what’s up?” or “how’s it going?” You’re not giving him anything specific to work with, and so it will feel like a chore for him to answer.
• Don’t send him multiple texts in a row if he didn’t respond to the first one. He’s probably got a good reason why he didn’t respond – but if he comes back to his phone and sees 5 increasingly desperate texts in a row, it’s going to turn him off.
• Don’t ask him about his relationship status or whether he’s seeing anyone else in a text. Those questions are for face to face conversations only.

So those are the best texting do’s and don’ts to avoid turning him off or feeling embarrassed. Remember, if you keep things light and fun and you don’t worry about whether he texts back or not, there’s a MUCH greater chance he’s going to text you back. Guys love that vibe, and they’ll love texting with you.

Vixendaily.com is the only site out there that specializes in mind-reading quizzes, content and advice tailored to your particular needs.  It’s like having your own personal mentor guiding you through life’s challenges every step of the way! It was founded by dating and relationship expert, Nick Bastion, who is the main contributor to the Love & Relationship Advice section of the site.

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