Your date seems to be going brilliantly. You’re making each other laugh and the conversation in flowing, when all of a sudden she goes cold, makes her excuses and scarpers.
Even the most well-intentioned men sometimes get things wrong. We’ve conducted a quick straw poll of our female friends and come up with some reasons you may not be getting that to that all–important second date.
This is not the face you want to inspire after telling your best joke on that first date.
Getting too drunk
Sure, it’s fine to sink more than three drinks when you’re on a night out with your mates or at home, but your date will want to be able to talk you, without you slurring, falling over or coming on too strong.
Bad dancing
Drinks or dinner went brilliantly, you suggested going to a club and she agreed. Great. But play your next moves carefully. You may think you resemble John Travolta on the dance floor but we’ve got news for you: you don’t. Keep your moves low key and save your unique rendition of ‘Gangnam Style’ for when you’re at home. Alone.
Answering your phone
Sometimes it can’t be helped; you may have a major crisis at work or a friend in need but keep texts or answering your phone to a minimum. Even better, turn your mobile off. It will look like you a totally uninterested in your date.
Too much aftershave
Everyone wants to smell nice and the musky hint of aftershave, deodorant or body spray is definitely a good thing. However, there is nothing worse than a date smelling like he has showered in the stuff. Less is more, guys.
Excessive swearing
While most of us let a few expletives out once in a while, try to not go too potty-mouthed on your lady. It doesn’t make a good impression. And never, ever swear at the waiter of bar man.
Bad breath
While point four above is very relevant, cigarette/coffee/just plain bad breath is a huge turn-off. Clean your teeth, chew gum and carry mints to hand. Otherwise a goodnight kiss will be the last thing on your date’s mind.
Showing Off
A flash car at home, a hot-shot recent promotion or even a yacht moored in Italy or are all very well and good but don’t bang on about them. By all means bring these topics up in a relaxed manner and she’ll respond far better.
Being insecure
On the other hand don’t be too meek and mild. If you constantly put yourself down, are very nervous, your date will start to ask herself why she wants to be with someone who doesn’t rate their own company.
Banging on about your hobbies
You may visit the gym ten times a week and resemble a body builder or be passionate about your favourite footy team and have a season ticket to Arsenal but doesn’t mean your date does too. She may look like she’s interested (she isn’t) but stop talking after five minutes and change the subject. You’ve been warned. No girl wants to be a football widow.
Using bad lines
Anything along the lines of ‘Great legs, when do they open?’ ‘You must be tired because you’ve been running through my head all night’ and ‘Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?’ are not funny or clever.
What do you think girls? Anything else that has you running for the hills? Tell us @lovestruck
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