Attracting the Right Guy – in three simple steps – a guest post by Lisa Jones; editor-in-chief of the blog Get a Good Guy, providing free dating advice for women.
At a certain point in your life, you may have gone through a phase of dating men who could only be described as “bad boys”. Most women, however, get over this phase eventually, and begin yearning for a guy who could be the right one for them on a more permanent basis. While it’s not exactly easy to find Mr. Right, it’s not impossible either. Then again, you must keep in mind that you may need to consciously make an effort to attract him, unless you’re one of those lucky women who draw in men from all walks of life without really lifting a finger. In any case, all women have a good chance at landing the right guy, and here are three simple steps to help you along!
1. First of all, don’t underestimate the fact that most men are visual creatures. This is a fact, regardless of whether they’re good or bad guys. Like it or not, men stare at you as you walk down the street not because you’re witty or smart or kind, but because you’re looking great. Your fun personality can always come later. Always make an effort to be pleasing to the eyes by wearing just the right amount of makeup, doing your hair nicely and putting on clothes that accentuate your best assets.
2. Attracting Mr. Right would be so much easier if he knew you were looking for him, wouldn’t it? In other words, put the word out that you are available and looking for someone who can be “the one”. If your friends set you up with guys, then go for it. To make sure you meet as many guys as possible, it’s a good idea to sign up for online dating sites as well.
3. While looks are important, it will also help to be known for your charm, wit, intelligence and confidence. Believe it or not, there is very little truth to the perception that men are intimidated and sometimes turned off by women who are known to be smart and confident. On the contrary, most men would love their women to be that way. The only men who don’t like smart and confident women are insecure guys who probably are not capable of keeping up with women who are that interesting in the long run. Avoid overdoing it with too many dry facts and figures, though. Exude just enough confidence and smarts to keep your conversations interesting, but don’t lecture him on how to do things.
It may sound clichéd, but being yourself is really the best thing you can do attract the right guy. If you’re pretending to be someone else and some guy gets attracted to you, then he isn’t the right guy because he’s actually attracted to this person you’ve pretended to be. If a guy doesn’t accept you for who you are, he really isn’t worth your efforts. Just keep on looking, and have fun as you go along. Join singles events such as the ones here on Lovestruck, hang out with your friends, go to the gym or whatever brings you joy. When you’re happy and have a positive attitude , you are much more likely to attract positive minded guys into your life.
Good luck!
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