Nope, you weren’t thinking about your next outing, you were actually thinking about where your relationship might be heading…are you both on the same train, heading in the same direction?
So you’ve been dating for a bit and it’s pretty clear you’re into each other. You like them. Your mates like them. It’s all about romantic dates rather than late night hook-ups and you’re even talking about going on a mini-break. So, you’re in a proper relationship, aren’t you? But maybe you spy their online dating profile is still up. You need to talk. It sounds ominous but if you’re thinking about it a lot then they probably are too, so best just get in there first and clear things up once and for all!
Here are the top six steps to having the “WAWG talk”, without the stress…
1. Find the right time: Pick a moment when you’re both relaxed and not distracted by other stuff to bring the topic of where the romance is heading and how you are both feeling about things. Don’t do it after sex or after downing the best part of a bottle of wine either, as both your judgments might be slightly cloudy and you’ll end up even more confused.
2. Keep the tone light: No one likes to feel they’re being interrogated so keep the mood light and upbeat and not heavy and pressure–filled. Do not open the conversation with the words, “we need to talk”, as this will make him or her panic.
3. Listen: Listen to what your partner is saying. Are they talking along the same lines as you? Are they agreeing with what you say? If so, by all means bring up exclusivity. Say something like, “I’ve shut my online dating profile down for a while because I’m not interested in meeting anyone new”, and see what they say.
4. Admit you’re nervous: It’s OK to say you’ve got butterflies. It’s normal and they will probably be feeling the same too. By admitting vulnerability, you’ll feel closer to them and hopefully, they you!
5. Resist the urge to keep talking: Once you’ve established how you both feel, resist the urge to have a long, drawn-out conversation about emotions, past relationships, the future etc. Wrap it up and move on.
6. Don’t get upset: If they need time to think about what you are saying or they don’t give you the answer you were hoping for, try not to freak out and get upset. You can’t control anyone else’s feelings and regardless of the outcome, at least you have got what you were after: clarity.
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