Quality control is a tricky issue, no? Everyone wants to find a relationship that really works for them but equally it’s very easy to say ‘no’ at the first sign of an annoying laugh, mention of a bossy mother or the fact he or she doesn’t fit your criteria list of 250 plus points.
Are you too picky? Having standards are a must, but sometimes you need to give people a chance.
Chances are if you are this picky you may have very easily sailed past the boy or girl of your dreams without giving them a second glance or kicked a lovely potential to the curb before you’ve even given it a proper chance to explain their weird obsession with cats/Star Wars/the gym (delete as appropriate). Here are five signs that let you know you’re making this mistake:
Your friends tell you
Your nearest and dearest can always be relied on to say it how it is. Be it your latest haircut is rubbish or that you need to be more open-minded, listen to them as they have you best interests at heart.
You judge completely on looks
Chemistry is important but this is not always about the way someone looks. Don’t fall victim to sentences like ‘he’s not tall enough,’ or ‘I only go for blondes’. If you continue to date solely on looks, you’re soon going to run out of options. Yes we all love a six-pack to stroke, a full pair of lips to kiss etc., just don’t make this a priority.
The last time you went on a date was 2007
Don’t refuse dates unless you are 100 per cent sure this person isn’t for you. Just because he is wearing a bowtie or she is wearing a girly headband doesn’t mean they won’t be the one you’ve been looking for.
You have unrealistic expectations
All girls like doors to be opened for them, or flowers and guys like their dates to turn up on time and offer to go dutch, but if these things don’t happen, is it really right to refuse a second date? Sometimes people want their date to fail and the night is doomed from the start. Ask yourself if this is you.
Your list is too long
Everyone is allowed to have a list and there will always be things you are prepared to negotiate over but things like ‘he/she must play the violin’ and ‘he/she must make a mean spaghetti carbonara’ are a bit ridiculous. Also ‘he/she treats me well’ should be right at the top. Look at your criteria and rearrange it. A perfect partner is a thing of the imagination, as no one is perfect. (Apart from Brad Pitt/Angelia Jolie, obvs)
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