We all want to find the perfect guy or girl for us and sometimes we stumble across someone who we think is great, until those little things creep in that you know aren’t quite right. They cheat on us, have bad habits or attitudes, are controlling, jealous, or they have problems that just get in the way of you being truly happy. No matter how much you think you may love this person, the best thing you can do is get out while you can and here’s why:
1. They will never change
Have you ever been promised that they won’t do something only for them to do it again (and again and again)? If someone cares about you, they won’t treat you badly. End of. And you can’t ever change people, only your own reactions towards them, so if you deserve better, don’t wait to be treated better, realise your worth and move on right now.
2. Trust is broken
If someone has broken your trust it takes a long time and effort from both parties to win it back. If you’re unsure you want the relationship to work in the long-run, why make all the effort and time of trying to piece it back together again?
3. You’re wasting time
By being with this person, you are wasting precious time. Think of all the other things you could be doing – spending time with friends, having fun, playing sport, taking up a new hobby, to name just a few. Also, you are stopping yourself from meeting someone who does love you and treat you well.
4. It’s better being alone than in bad company
Anyone whose come out of a bad relationship can vouch for this: being single is far better than being in the wrong relationship. Yes, you might not be part of a cosy couple but it will be far less lonely on your own than with a toxic partner.
Afterwards you can also take time and have the headspace to look back, think about what happened and what you can do to stop it happening again.
5. You can’t do anything right
They’re finding fault with everything you do, you feel like you can’t be yourself around them and you’re treading on eggshells to avoid bad feeling – you can’t live your life like this. You need to be you, and you deserve to be happy.
And finally: Listen to your gut.
So often we ignore our ‘gut instinct’ and often, it’s always right. You sense how they treat you isn’t right, what they say to you isn’t right and you’ve tried but you can’t resolve it. Trust us, it will never go away, it will in fact, it will only grow to be a bigger problem. Walking away shows huge courage but you can do it. You must do it. Life is short and you have to do what’s right for YOU.
Have you ever been in a toxic relationship?
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