So you’ve cleared out your wardrobe, been promoted at work, finally found the perfect flatmates who clean up after themselves and don’t have any weird bathroom habits and now you need to fine tune your complicated dating life.
Changing our dating habits can make a real difference.
There are no classes in the art of successful dating but if you always seem to follow the same patterns and feel like you are getting a ‘fail’ each time a new romance ends; it might be that you are following similar dating patterns and need to break some bad habits.
Here are our top five tips below:
Stop wasting time
If you’ve been on three dates and still aren’t feeling it, stop wasting time and move on. While your friends may argue that sometimes a spark grows over time; there does need to be something there to start with, even if it’s just a flicker of interest. If you don’t feel butterflies or can’t be bothered to brush you hair before the date, its time to take action.
Don’t get involved with people who are unavailable
If someone you are dating is seeing – or married – repeat after me: ‘Get out now’. You may be intrigued about them or flattered by their attention, but it will only end in tears. You may think all the good ‘uns are already taken, but without stating the obvious, if they are flirting with you behind their partner’s back, they fall into the loser category.
Seeking constant approval
Of course you want your partner to love you, your clothes, your work, well just about everything you do. This becomes a problem, however, when without their approval you become insecure and clingy. Don’t rely on them for validation and instead look for support from friends, family or colleagues.
Waiting for them to call/text/email
Do you press the refresh button on your email constantly willing you inbox to light up with your partner’s name. Ever type a few texts in a row in an attempt to get a response? Stop this by keeping yourself busy with your own life and interests. This is far more attractive and exciting for them. The email, text or call will always come when you are busy.
Morphing into them
So you enjoy their hobbies, like their friends and dig their work. Great – but make sure your life always comes first. Dropping your own stuff and morphing yourself into their world is not a good thing as you are putting all your eggs into one basket and may seriously annoy your friends in the process. Nurture your friendships – you’ll need them if it all ends.
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