Life is all about compromise, right? We always hear it said about relationships don’t we, ‘You have to compromise you know!’ and yes, to a certain extent a little give n’ take is often needed to make things work. But there are some things we think you should never ever compromise when in a relationship, not for anyone. No, not even for them either.
Take a look, we think they are pretty non-negotiable…don’t you?
Your values: From your views on loyality to courtesy, punctuality to manners, you’ve probably held the same values for some time but hold on to them! Live by them and let no guy or gal tell you they are old fashioned or silly, they are what make you, you!
Your hobbies: ‘Why do you need a hobby when you have me?” Answer: Because you are part of my world not all of it. OK, so you might have to cut back on the 7 days a week gym habit, but encourage your partner to keep their hobbies, do some together but retain some of yours for you and you only. Hobbies give us time out and it’s important to have that time for healthy body, mind and relationship.
Your friends/family: As we know, boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, but friends and family will be your rock when things go wrong. Don’t dump them the moment you start dating someone, we hate it when mates do that, it sucks and we were here first. If someone is telling you to dump certain friends or even family, prepare to dump them. A good partner shouldn’t ask that of you.
Your dreams: Someone once said that the day we stop dreaming, we die. OK, so that might be a tad melodramatic but there is truth in this. A good, thoughtful partner will encourage your dreams not mock or try to discourage you from pursuing them. Keep them alive!
Your financial independence: We might dream of someone rich coming along and telling us to quit our job so they can take care if us but be slightly wary of their reasons (control-freak?) If you’re still able to work, do, even if it’s changing your job for something less stressful or maybe reducing your hours. Retain some financial independence for your own self-respect, relationships can end quickly and you could be left with…nada.
Do you agree with our non-compromising points?
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Image: The Negotiator, Samuel L. Jackson.
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