So we recently asked London dating guru Hayley Quinn what really attracts men, so now we thought we would throw the same question on it’s head and ask what are the secret ingredients for attracting women.
All women are different and attracted to different types of men.
She tells us: “Tall, dark and handsome. That’s what women go crazy for, right? Slightly frustrating news to any man who is sub 5’9”, strawberry blonde or more Robert Downey Junior, than Robert Pattison. But wait! Before you take a deep sigh of ‘I’m just not her type’ – I’d like you to consider the fact that not all women are wired quite the same way the Diet Coke commercials suggest.”
Really? We always thought Mr Diet Coke would make a good date. No, says Hayley. It’s all abount banter, humour and morals.
“Rippling muscles, chiseled jawlines and a devil may care attitude mean absolutely zip to most women if they don’t come pared with a sense of humour, verbal banter and some vague moral code. I can safely say it is a rare day when I see a guy in a muscle vest and think of swooning on the spot. However, it’s pretty common that I’ll become attracted to guys of all different heights, weights and backgrounds because of the words they say that rock my world.”
She adds: “A guy who can make me laugh in that particular way where I feel borderline teased, borderline wooed – amazing.
“A man who is clear that he wants you – and you know he isn’t saying that to every other woman he meets – what a hero. A partner who lets me be me, whilst still feeling supported, dynamite. These are seriously attractive qualities – but not ones you can judge too well before you’re at least 30 minutes into a date. It’s not so much about the lightening bolts rather a gradual dimmer switch of attraction.”
And Hayley adds, from personal experience, it’s the slow-burners that are often the best.
She says: “I can safely say that I absolutely did not ‘get it’ when I first met my boyfriend. I remember initially thinking ‘who is this child?’ ‘OMG he dresses like such a hipster’ and ‘why is he behaving so strangely?’ However, after a little persistence from his side I agreed to go on a date and now 6 months later I’ve come to see him as (ironically) very tall, dark and handsome.
“Which was a pleasant surprise… but not nearly as attractive to me as finding a guy who knew what he wanted, made me laugh out loud and who was never ashamed of being 100 per cent himself.”
Girls, do you agree with Hayley? Tell us @lovestruck
You can read more from Hayley Quinn via www.hayleyquinn.com.
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