Are your friends keeping you single whether they mean to or not?
Welcome Gaia Beck, resident dating expert to the world’s first LIVE magazine Flavourmag who gives her thoughts on the matter…
1. Your friend is basically your partner. 
You share everything together, they know you inside out and frankly, no new partner can come close to your friendship. This stops you from actively dating and committing to love.
Solution: You need to cut back on time with your friends and give time to dating, even if it means giving up a fun Saturday night with your friends. You’ll never have a date/partner if you don’t get yourself back in the dating zone.
2. Are you listening to your friends opinion more than your own?
Have you ever met a someone you liked but your friend raised an eyebrow at their dress sense, sense of humor, job? In our quest to impress good friends we tend to agree with their thoughts and opinions which could mean passing up the opportunity to bag a great partner.
Solution: Don’t introduce your dates too soon, give yourself time to form your own opinion before you introduce they to your circle of friends so that you’re not prematurely swayed.
3. Your friend doesn’t want to be left on the shelf. 
Does your friend often negatively pick on anything your date does? Or ask questions to point out why they are not right for you? Is it possible that they don’t want to be single and are subconsciously ruining your chance of a relationship?
Solution: It’s natural for friends to feel jealousy so don’t over talk your fabulous dates, balance out conversations with something fun that your friend is doing and be careful of talking negatively about your new partner as this often give great ammunition for a passive stirrer.
4. Are you friends jaded and is it rubbing off on you?
If your circle of friends are single and have given up on the chance of finding true love, these feelings will start to influence you. We attract like minded people, so if your friends are bitter, you may seem the same too and could be giving off negative vibes without realising it.
Solution: Spend time with friends in happy relationships, their advice and perspective on relationships my be much more balanced and useful than that of single friends. You might be surprised that they are often very keen to match up their single friends so you might find a friend of a friend to be the perfect match.
5. Are your competitive with your friends? 
Females often compete with one another; who has the latest pair of shoes, salary, hair, who is going to find the best partner first? Do they often post pictures of expensive gifts or destinations on social media? Are they causing you to wish your partner matched these extravagances?
Solution: Remember that what people post to their social networks can be a far stretch from the truth. The best relationships are the ones not littered over Instagram or Facebook. Does your mother post what your father got her for Valentines day? Guessing not. Try to limit checking what everyone else is up to and just enjoy the moment you are living right now.
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