Einstein once said that it was madness to keep doing the same thing, and to expect
Hayley Quinn: Dating & Relationship expert.
different results… or something like that!
With 2014 rapidly approaching how about taking a different tact this Christmas with your dating? Try my top 5 dating tips for Christmas and see if you can shake things up by January.
1. Say ‘YES’ to someone unexpected. Fed up of your dates always ending up in the same way? Are your friends getting annoyed that you’re turning into an Ask-Hole? If your usual ‘type’ is failing you, how about saying YES to someone different? Change your dating parameters and you may find that something new is just what you needed.
2. Give a compliment. Who says presents are the only thing we should give this Christmas? If you spot someone you like, pay them a compliment, with no agenda. Whether it’s the guy in the santa jumper on the tube, or the quirky woman’s profile that you’ve spotted; forget about being too strategic and just tell them what you like about them.
3. Forgive a minor mistake. So he chose a bad first date place, she’s a huge fan of Miley Cyrus, or they’re holding their pet pug in their profile picture. In the grand scheme of things, these quirks are nowhere near as important as a person’s values, and if you click in real life. So quit being so judgemental, take a breather, and see if your date grows on you.
4. Try an unusual date. Fed up of a round of mojitos? Bored of going on countless dates? Then you need to make the effort to make your dating more like love, and less like a job interview. Get into the habit of looking out for events you’d like to go to solo… then have the confidence to ask your date along. If they agree, you’ll at least have one interest in common and even if it’s a disaster, you should have fun discovering just how ill suited you are.
5. Don’t get hung up on ‘the one’. At Christmas time we’re more fixated than ever with finding ‘the one’. That’s a tall order for most people to match up to though; so instead of writing a person off for not being a 10 out of 10- how about feeling happy that you’ve met a cool friend, awesome coffee buddy, or a fun, seasonal fling?
Just remember happiness with dating is all about valuing what you’ve already got, as well as taking the risks to get you closer to what you want.
Hayley Quinn is a relationship & dating expert, helping men and women to reach their dating goals. If you want to find out more visit www.hayleyquinn.com
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